You are navigating this for the first time. I have walked this path with over 1,000 families.
Since 2016, I have consulted with hundreds of parents whose children are struggling with gender distress. While every family is unique, the patterns are often the same. When you are in the middle of the storm, it is difficult to see which actions will help and which will hurt.
My role is to provide you with the “bird’s-eye view.” Because I stay in touch with families for years after our initial talks, I know how these situations tend to unfold. I can help you see around corners, avoid common pitfalls, and maintain your connection with your child without abandoning your parental instincts.
A Sanity Check for Loving Parents
Many intelligent, thoughtful parents feel isolated by the current cultural narrative. You may feel that your rational, love-based desire to slow down medicalization is being treated as bigotry.
In these consultations, you do not need to self-censor. I have learned that parents need to be validated, not educated on “acceptance.” Your instinct to protect and nurture your child is correct. Here, we can discuss your concerns honestly and strategically.
What to Expect From Our Call
This is not open-ended talk therapy; it is a 75-minute strategy session.
Whether you are dealing with a sudden adolescent announcement or a university-aged adult, we will collaborate to create a customized roadmap for your family. My goal is for you to leave our call with concrete steps to improve your family dynamic immediately.
Common issues we resolve together:
The Narrative: Understanding why this is happening to your child now.
Communication: How to talk about gender when there is friction, without escalating the conflict.
Logistics: Navigating school “social transition” policies, pronouns, and dorm selection.
Peer Influence: Managing the impact of social media and friend groups.
The Long Game: Strategies for staying connected with adult children or those heading to college.
Let’s turn down the noise and figure out the best path forward for your family.